Here’s a little mini-rant. I’ll try to keep it short. What’s up with people feeling the need to respond negatively to whatever you say? For example, when I/we tell someone how mellow Morgan is and how generally she’s very content, the response could just be “That’s great!” Instead, it’s things like, “Oh, how nice. Just hope she doesn’t start getting colicky.” (Proper response? What our pediatrician said: “Usually what you see is what you get, so I bet she’ll continue to be that way.” Even if it’s not true… lie to us. I have no reason to think he WAS lying to us, I’m just saying.)
You get lots of that when pregnant. If I ever discussed my plan to birth out of hospital (and therefore without medication) I’d get some positive responses, but often it was along the lines of “Ha, good luck with that” or, “Wait until you get there, you’ll change your mind.” Well, I didn’t change my mind, thank you very much. As Adrian said in his post a few back, I did say something about going to the hospital while we were still at home, but I was half joking, and it was more a “wow, this is intense and a little overwhelming, and it’s tempting to want to make it stop.” I never actually said that I wanted to go to the hospital or wanted medication. (Frankly, that’s because it came on so fast I didn’t really have time to think, but that’s another story. And I already had it in my head that it just wasn’t an option, so therefore I didn’t ask for it, you know? That’s partially why I didn’t want to be in a hospital. I knew if relief were available or offered I’d be that much more likely to want it. Hehe.)
Also fun, as I mentioned before, was the “Oh, you must be so uncomfortable. You look uncomfortable” where of course you want to reply, “Gee, thanks, I felt like I was doing okay right up until then.” Or even random people at stores saying things like, “So are you just ready to not be pregnant anymore?” Where I’d stutter out some response about how pregnancy has been fine but I am excited to meet her and see what she looks like, etc.
So while musing on this attitude that seems to come from people and why people seem to find it necessary to rain on my parade, the term Debbie Downer popped into my head. I realized where I’d heard this before: on my old law school friend Kathleen’s blog. Her post is much funnier than mine, so you should read it. Once again I realize that I don’t come up with any good ideas all on my own. Haha.
In any case, I suspect I probably do the same thing to people, because it’s some sort of thing in our culture that it’s funnier or something to be contrary. Perhaps it’s the prevalence of sarcasm? Also, I’m sure I like to interject my opinion way too much, rather than just let people do and think what they want. So I’m going to work on that, hoping that at least if I start being aware of it I’ll maybe be less of a killjoy for others.
I’ve knew how obnoxious people could be until I was pregnant enough for people to notice… and ever since then it seems like everyone is an expert on everything and knows more than I do. Through all the obnoxious comments I’ve learned just to keep my mouth shut when it comes to pregnant women and women with babies. I HATE unsolicited advice. I don’t know if people are just trying to make themselves feel better about something or what.
More pictures of Morgan, please!
I’ll just say I’m terribly jealous if your sweet little one is indeed that sweet
I hope she stays that way…I’m sure she will with such a well-put-together-mama like yourself. I’m already getting unsolicited advice and criticism…from family none-the-less. I feel you on that one! I love that you made it through childbirth naturally and think it sounds like such an amazing experience. I’ll let you know how being knocked out (kinda), cut open, and sewn back up goes 
Just throw that at someone next time they give you grief for doing it on your own. You are amazing!
You’re saying what most of us preggos have thought!! And you’re pediatrician is absolutely right, with newborns, what you see is what you get =) I think it’s wonderful you have such a mellow baby, it just makes the bonding and enw time together that much more fun!!
Bahaha! Sorry if I’VE ever been the Debbie Downer. You rock!