Comments on: I know what you meant, but… http://theuntitledtitlepage.com/2009/03/31/i-know-what-you-meant-but/ Follow our lives, one page at a time... Wed, 08 Sep 2010 22:44:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Kara http://theuntitledtitlepage.com/2009/03/31/i-know-what-you-meant-but/comment-page-1/#comment-1353 Kara Sun, 05 Apr 2009 01:52:45 +0000 http://theuntitledtitlepage.com/?p=424#comment-1353 Oh, the things people do and say. There were a couple of times with both babies where I almost lost it when someone with nasty hands touched their faces (when they were tiny little newborns). It made me CRAZY. And yet I never said anything...I'm so spineless. I think my favorite though was when I was pregnant with Andrew and John and I went to In-N-Out (one of the sketchier ones too, clientele-wise) and this woman came up and started rubbing my belly. Ugh! It's hard when you feel like you have to time outings based on feedings. Feed them right before you walk out the door, then only be gone for a short time and feed them as soon as you get home. It's nice to get past that, though again, I miss things about that time. Grant is just so different now, I can't believe how fast it goes. Oh, the things people do and say. There were a couple of times with both babies where I almost lost it when someone with nasty hands touched their faces (when they were tiny little newborns). It made me CRAZY. And yet I never said anything…I’m so spineless. I think my favorite though was when I was pregnant with Andrew and John and I went to In-N-Out (one of the sketchier ones too, clientele-wise) and this woman came up and started rubbing my belly. Ugh!

It’s hard when you feel like you have to time outings based on feedings. Feed them right before you walk out the door, then only be gone for a short time and feed them as soon as you get home. It’s nice to get past that, though again, I miss things about that time. Grant is just so different now, I can’t believe how fast it goes.

]]> By: Allison http://theuntitledtitlepage.com/2009/03/31/i-know-what-you-meant-but/comment-page-1/#comment-1328 Allison Fri, 03 Apr 2009 00:48:41 +0000 http://theuntitledtitlepage.com/?p=424#comment-1328 I don't know why people feel free to touch babies. I'm a total freak about germs and I haaaate it. But I have yet to come up with a good response because I would feel mean saying anything. I find that babywearing does minimize the random touchings. But I guess grocery store woman had no boundaries! When the weather gets better up there, I think you'll enjoy taking Morgan out more... it gets easier with practice! I remember feeling so empowered the first day I went out with Simon for several hours on end. I nursed in public twice and changed his diaper in a public restroom. After that, I felt like I could really do this whole parenting thing! :D Now I love getting out of the house with him. It's especially easy if you go somewhere with a Nordstrom, because their restrooms have the BEST set-up... they have a separate women's lounge with arm chairs for nursing, and a nice changing table (not just those fold-down ones). I don’t know why people feel free to touch babies. I’m a total freak about germs and I haaaate it. But I have yet to come up with a good response because I would feel mean saying anything. I find that babywearing does minimize the random touchings. But I guess grocery store woman had no boundaries!

When the weather gets better up there, I think you’ll enjoy taking Morgan out more… it gets easier with practice! I remember feeling so empowered the first day I went out with Simon for several hours on end. I nursed in public twice and changed his diaper in a public restroom. After that, I felt like I could really do this whole parenting thing! :D Now I love getting out of the house with him. It’s especially easy if you go somewhere with a Nordstrom, because their restrooms have the BEST set-up… they have a separate women’s lounge with arm chairs for nursing, and a nice changing table (not just those fold-down ones).

]]> By: Liz http://theuntitledtitlepage.com/2009/03/31/i-know-what-you-meant-but/comment-page-1/#comment-1321 Liz Tue, 31 Mar 2009 22:40:38 +0000 http://theuntitledtitlepage.com/?p=424#comment-1321 I've often wondered this same thing myself. Why do people insist on asking you questions that are none of their business or sticking their hands where they do not belong? When you're single, everyone asks if you're dating and when you're going to get married. And then, when you get married, everyone asks you when you're going to get pregnant. Then once you get pregnant, people you don't know touch you or ask you rude things about your pregnancy. And then they start asking when you're going to have another child. I don't know why other people feel this is at all their business, unless we are close, personal friends. I have wondered how to respond to people who want to touch my children. I hate when people I barely know touch me but I think I'd be irate if they touched my child without asking me first. I do understand the impulse though. Whenever I see a cute baby, I want to touch them but I have remind myself that touching unknown children is inappropriate. I don't think there is anything wrong with saying "Please don't touch my baby" in as nice a voice as possible. It will get the message across and hopefully make them think twice about touching another random baby again. I can't think of any other way that is more direct and clear. I’ve often wondered this same thing myself. Why do people insist on asking you questions that are none of their business or sticking their hands where they do not belong? When you’re single, everyone asks if you’re dating and when you’re going to get married. And then, when you get married, everyone asks you when you’re going to get pregnant. Then once you get pregnant, people you don’t know touch you or ask you rude things about your pregnancy. And then they start asking when you’re going to have another child. I don’t know why other people feel this is at all their business, unless we are close, personal friends.

I have wondered how to respond to people who want to touch my children. I hate when people I barely know touch me but I think I’d be irate if they touched my child without asking me first. I do understand the impulse though. Whenever I see a cute baby, I want to touch them but I have remind myself that touching unknown children is inappropriate. I don’t think there is anything wrong with saying “Please don’t touch my baby” in as nice a voice as possible. It will get the message across and hopefully make them think twice about touching another random baby again. I can’t think of any other way that is more direct and clear.

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